Holding on to anger is like grasping a hot coal with the intent of throwing it at someone else; you are the one who gets burned.
“But to you who are listening I say: Love your enemies, do good to those who hate you, bless those who curse you, pray for those who mistreat you. If someone slaps you on one cheek, turn to them the other also. If someone takes your coat, do not withhold your shirt from them. Give to everyone who asks you, and if anyone takes what belongs to you, do not demand it back. Do to others as you would have them do to you.
“If you love those who love you, what credit is that to you? Even sinners love those who love them. And if you do good to those who are good to you, what credit is that to you? Even sinners do that. And if you lend to those from whom you expect repayment, what credit is that to you? Even sinners lend to sinners, expecting to be repaid in full. But love your enemies, do good to them, and lend to them without expecting to get anything back. Then your reward will be great, and you will be children of the Most High, because he is kind to the ungrateful and wicked. Be merciful, just as your Father is merciful.”
It took me so long to put up this site because I really, really don’t want to. I don’t live by the Bible, but I do try to live by the message of this particular passage.
I don’t understand why James screws people over. It’s a colossally stupid thing to do. If someone has a good experience, they tell 10 people. If they have a bad experience, they tell 10,000.
I hope James will decide for himself to stop screwing people over and make amends to the people he has hurt. Unless you’re a narcissistic sociopath, you can’t mistreat others and be at peace with yourself.